A few months ago I mentioned in our forums, on Facebook, and on Twitter that I was evaluating several relationship courses from David DeAngelo. If you aren’t familiar with his work, David DeAngelo is the pen-name of Eben Pagan, a man who achieved tremendous success creating and selling various courses (ebooks, DVDs, etc) about dating [...]
There was a recent discussion in our forums about the contrast between playing an online computer game (MMORPG) and, over a period of weeks or months, acquiring a substantial amount of gold for your character (avatar) versus experiencing the opposite situation of financial scarcity in real life. The question posed was: What’s it like to [...]
Do you ever mistakenly use your own power against yourself? Instead of focusing your creative energies to fulfill your desires, do you channel those energies into negative thoughts, feelings, and visualizations? If so then you’re succumbing to an abuse of your own power. Here are some common patterns that involve using your power against yourself as well [...]
When people fail to move forward in the direction of their dreams, a common excuse is “I don’t know how.” They claim that a lack of know-how is the key factor holding them back in life. For example, people write to me all the time saying that they wish they could start a successful blog, [...]
Many people suggest that doing volunteer work is a great way to open your heart to new experiences. I totally agree. When I was in high school, I did volunteer work at two different places, helping out for about 50 hours at each place. Working With Seniors The first place was a convalescent home near LAX (Los Angeles Airport). I must [...]
I’ve never resonated with the usual dating and courtship process. Traditional dating is actually one of our society’s most ineffective inventions. The main reason it gets so much attention is the commercial engine that drives it. Restaurants, movie theatres, jewelers, etc. want you to believe that spending money on their products and services equals romance. [...]
My interest in polyamory isn’t primarily about finding other sex partners. The real reason is to enjoy close, emotionally intimate connections with other people. Emotional intimacy and genuine friendship are the most important factors. Those relationships may or may not include physical intimacy as well. A common misconception is that polyamory is all about the [...]
“Perhaps our greatest acts of violence are reserved not for those experiences that are most foreign to us but for the ones that are closest to the truth about ourselves.” – Jonathan Mooney In this article I’ll candidly share my thoughts about polyamory, monogamy, marriage, and about intimate relationships in general. Hurt One issue that [...]
As a follow-up to yesterday’s post about leaving monogamy behind in order to pursue polyamory, here are answers to some questions I’ve been asked. The last question is answered by Erin. What effect will polyamory have on your marriage with Erin? Since I’ve never done anything like this before, it’s hard to say. Surely it [...]
In this post I’m going to share some things I’ve never shared publicly before, some of which you might find a bit surprising. At the start of each new year, I like to pick a primary focus for the upcoming year. I prefer doing this instead of making a New Year’s resolution because it’s more [...]