Archive for October 2012

How to Invite Cuddling Without Inviting Sex

I’ve been getting lots of inquisitive feedback regarding my recent article on open relationships, especially with respect to the section on deeper friendships. One question that a few women asked me essentially boils down to this: I really love cuddling, but I have a hard time inviting guys to cuddle with me because they might…

Plodding and Bursting

Plodding and bursting are two different strategies for getting things done. Understanding these two modes will help you in two ways. First, you’ll be able to identify your own default mode, so you can better take advantage of it. And second, you’ll be able to understand others who prefer your non-dominant mode, so you can…

Should You Tell Your Mono Partner About Your Interest in Open Relationships?

What if you’re already in a monogamous relationship now, and you feel leanings towards a more open relationship experience? Should you discuss this with your current partner or keep it to yourself? What if you aren’t 100% sure about your feelings yet? Should you wait until you’re certain? First off, there are no shoulds. You’re…

10 Reasons You Should Vote for Me for President

The U.S. Presidential elections are coming up soon. Instead of voting for those other guys who will just run you in circles, I’d like you to vote for me instead. I’m not officially on any ballots, so you’ll have to write in my name. My odds of getting elected may be slim since I’ve been…

How to Release Neediness

Learn to notice and appreciate the hidden abundance obscured by scarcity and lack, and more abundance will flow to you. Although I enjoy some very nice abundance in my life today (time freedom, work I love, travel, wonderful friends, amazing kids), I don’t need anything in particular to feel rich. As I see it, I…

Shameless, Fearless, Guiltless

Congruent desires are shameless, fearless, and guiltless. If you attach any shame, fear, or guilt to your desires, you’re simply pushing them away. A good way to test if your desires are congruent is to consider posting them publicly, where everyone in your life can see them. Whatever desires you can’t post publicly, you’re repelling.…