Archive for January 2009

Polyamory Resources

Lately I’ve been getting many requests to share my favorite resources (books, websites, etc) for learning about polyamory. This list may be a little premature because I haven’t had time to explore all of these resources myself, but I trust the people that recommended them, especially when certain resources were suggested repeatedly by different people.…

Conscious Sexuality

When I first began writing about polyamory, some people proclaimed that I was just in it for the sex. I explained that my primary interest in polyamory has to do with sharing emotional intimacy, not physical intimacy. That’s the honest truth. However, later I realized there was a hidden assumption behind the comments people were…

Polyamory and Blog Traffic

I posted this to my Twitter account early today and thought I’d share it here since I know many bloggers are curious about it. I usually prefer not to write much about blogging these days (it’s my medium, not my message), but I like to offer some inspiration to help other bloggers when I can.…

Initiating Relationships with Openness, Honesty, and Directness

I’ve never resonated with the usual dating and courtship process. Traditional dating is actually one of our society’s most ineffective inventions. The main reason it gets so much attention is the commercial engine that drives it. Restaurants, movie theatres, jewelers, etc. want you to believe that spending money on their products and services equals romance.…

Why Polyamory?

My interest in polyamory isn’t primarily about finding other sex partners. The real reason is to enjoy close, emotionally intimate connections with other people. Emotional intimacy and genuine friendship are the most important factors. Those relationships may or may not include physical intimacy as well. A common misconception is that polyamory is all about the…

Polyamory Update

Here’s an update on the journey Erin and I have been taking along the path of polyamory during the past couple weeks. I had the option of posting another incredibly lengthy piece, but I decided to do something different this time by breaking it into smaller, bite-sized chunks that will be posted throughout the week.…

Judge Not

Have you ever met anyone who was normal? I’ve met a lot of people on this planet so far, and none have ever seemed normal — or average — to me. Not even close. Being normal is a myth. There’s no such thing. Despite what some people say about me, I don’t consider my lifestyle…

Remote Diagnosis Disorder

Remote Diagnosis Disorder (RDD) is my new addition to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. People afflicted with this personality disorder suffer from an uncontrollable urge to diagnose individuals as suffering from one or more psychological disorders, specifically individuals which the RDD sufferer has had little or no direct personal interaction with. RDD…

San Francisco Trip Jan 23-26

Erin and I will be in San Francisco January 23-26, 2009. We’ll be staying in Emeryville and will be visiting various parts of the Bay Area. Our kids will be with their grandparents. The last time we visited the Bay Area was about 3 years ago. I was amazed at how much had changed since…

Jealousy

This morning I said to Erin, “I don’t see how to become jealous. I mean… even if I wanted to try being jealous, how would I even do that?” Then I suggested, “Let’s be jealous of each other for one day. We’ll try it out to see what it’s like. It could be fun!” Erin…