http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/ Personal Development for Smart People Sat, 09 May 2009 21:45:19 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-77652 Polyamory Sat, 03 Jan 2009 05:45:34 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-77652 [...] Instead, take the hurt as it comes, and fully accept it. Listen to what the hurt is telling you, learn from it, and grow through it. See the hurt as a gift instead of a punishment. Tune into the joy behind the sadness. [...] [...] Instead, take the hurt as it comes, and fully accept it. Listen to what the hurt is telling you, learn from it, and grow through it. See the hurt as a gift instead of a punishment. Tune into the joy behind the sadness. [...]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-76936 Lessons From Ron Lewison (1938-2008) Tue, 19 Aug 2008 05:28:05 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-76936 [...] Ron has ended. It’s only been transformed. I keep thinking about the ideas I wrote about in The Joy of Sadness — how sadness and joy are really two sides of the same whole. While I’ve cried a lot [...] [...] Ron has ended. It’s only been transformed. I keep thinking about the ideas I wrote about in The Joy of Sadness — how sadness and joy are really two sides of the same whole. While I’ve cried a lot [...]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-54854 Love Bhakti #5: A Romantic Life « The Blooming Heart Wed, 17 Oct 2007 07:35:53 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-54854 [...] There is a brilliant article by Steve Pavlina that I think all my gamer friends will especially appreciate, which uses video games as a way to understand how we can engage in risk and growth and acts that require great courage without being overwhelmed by the fear of “bad” emotions: The Joy of Sadness. It is an approach to courage that I think could make a great difference to many people. [...] [...] There is a brilliant article by Steve Pavlina that I think all my gamer friends will especially appreciate, which uses video games as a way to understand how we can engage in risk and growth and acts that require great courage without being overwhelmed by the fear of “bad” emotions: The Joy of Sadness. It is an approach to courage that I think could make a great difference to many people. [...]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-52108 Stress or Adventure? You Decide : Be Inspired Every Day Mon, 10 Sep 2007 06:12:16 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-52108 [...] Steve Pavlina: The Joy of Sadness - Steve Pavlina’s post on changing the way you look at your feelings. [...] [...] Steve Pavlina: The Joy of Sadness – Steve Pavlina’s post on changing the way you look at your feelings. [...]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-51658 Overcoming Jealousy Thu, 06 Sep 2007 19:21:49 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-51658 [...] In The Joy of Sadness, I explained how even negative emotions can be transformed into positive ones when you can move beyond the ego’s perspective and see reality from the perspective of a higher consciousness.  From this perspective, jealousy would be like having your left hand accuse your right hand of stealing its ring.  That would be silly.  What sense does it make for your hands to fight with each other?  A jealous reaction does make some sense from the perspective of an individual hand, but it makes no sense from the perspective of the larger body. [...] [...] In The Joy of Sadness, I explained how even negative emotions can be transformed into positive ones when you can move beyond the ego’s perspective and see reality from the perspective of a higher consciousness.  From this perspective, jealousy would be like having your left hand accuse your right hand of stealing its ring.  That would be silly.  What sense does it make for your hands to fight with each other?  A jealous reaction does make some sense from the perspective of an individual hand, but it makes no sense from the perspective of the larger body. [...]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-51424 You are not you Mon, 03 Sep 2007 23:28:13 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-51424 [...] Furthermore building on what has been said by Steve Pavlina you are not your physical body, imagine life is a video game, you move around the world, you do things that raise and lower your state, you experience problems and you find solutions. When you navigate around a video game you of course realize that you are your character in the video game. How about taking on the perspective that you are not your real life character, your name is not what it is and you are simply a free form spirit controlling this physical body. Now you don’t have to be religious or particularly spiritual to experience this shift, just as you don’t have to be religious or spiritual to play a video game, just open your mind to it. Funnily enough many people often give themselves less freedom than a video game and instead choose (albeit unconsciously and influenced by the mass of society) to treat their lives like they are characters in a movie, they don’t get a choice to make, they just follow the movie script of life (go to school, go to uni, get a job, retire, die), and pay little thought to the alternate options they have out there, instead choosing to live a life on rails from start to finish. [...] [...] Furthermore building on what has been said by Steve Pavlina you are not your physical body, imagine life is a video game, you move around the world, you do things that raise and lower your state, you experience problems and you find solutions. When you navigate around a video game you of course realize that you are your character in the video game. How about taking on the perspective that you are not your real life character, your name is not what it is and you are simply a free form spirit controlling this physical body. Now you don’t have to be religious or particularly spiritual to experience this shift, just as you don’t have to be religious or spiritual to play a video game, just open your mind to it. Funnily enough many people often give themselves less freedom than a video game and instead choose (albeit unconsciously and influenced by the mass of society) to treat their lives like they are characters in a movie, they don’t get a choice to make, they just follow the movie script of life (go to school, go to uni, get a job, retire, die), and pay little thought to the alternate options they have out there, instead choosing to live a life on rails from start to finish. [...]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-50800 Who is you? at The Wise Turtle Speaks Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:23:18 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-50800 [...] Steve Pavlina, geeky personal growth guy, seems to believe similarly to the Buddhist theory. His recent blog post using a video game theme to explain why it’s useful to not attach yourself to your emotions was interesting, and helpful for folks going through difficult times. [...] [...] Steve Pavlina, geeky personal growth guy, seems to believe similarly to the Buddhist theory. His recent blog post using a video game theme to explain why it’s useful to not attach yourself to your emotions was interesting, and helpful for folks going through difficult times. [...]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-50761 Emotions and Impermanence | Considering The Universe Wed, 29 Aug 2007 13:45:48 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-50761 [...] I just got back from my Grandpa’s 75th Birthday Party in Gloucester, MA. It was a great trip, but it was also rather exhausting. We discussed change, getting old, and death. The discussions were emotional and full of fear. After I got back I listened to my favorite ZenCast, episode 102 in which Gil talks about the importance of fully contemplating death. This, along with Steve Pavlina’s recent post on emotions prompted me to write about emotions and impermanence [...] [...] I just got back from my Grandpa’s 75th Birthday Party in Gloucester, MA. It was a great trip, but it was also rather exhausting. We discussed change, getting old, and death. The discussions were emotional and full of fear. After I got back I listened to my favorite ZenCast, episode 102 in which Gil talks about the importance of fully contemplating death. This, along with Steve Pavlina’s recent post on emotions prompted me to write about emotions and impermanence [...]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/comment-page-1/#comment-50604 The Law of Attraction and The Best Days of Your Life - Living the Well-Rounded Life at NeilSattin.com Tue, 28 Aug 2007 17:27:43 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/#comment-50604 [...] I’ve been on an intentional quest to have the best life I could possibly have.  As I look around me, at my family and friends, and within me, at my state of being, it seems like I’m doing a pretty darn good job of it.  Still, there are occasionally “off” days - and on those days I often spend some time thinking about a better day and conjuring up the feeling of what THAT day was like.  In the process, I get even more well-practiced at feeling good, AND I also get to consider the following questions: What do I consider to be the best days of my life (so far)?  What characteristics do they share?  How can I have more of them?  What does the nature of those days tell me about what I should be doing with my life?  I believe that the answers to these questions, combined with nurturing the feeling of an excellent day within you, can keep you on an ever-more-positive path in your own life.  It’s the Law of Attraction working for you, bringing more goodness your way the more that you focus on goodness.  And when a day isn’t going quite your way, you can summon up the feeling of one of the “best days of your life” to put a totally different spin on whatever’s got you down (see this interesting article on the Joy of Sadness by Steve Pavlina). [...] [...] I’ve been on an intentional quest to have the best life I could possibly have.  As I look around me, at my family and friends, and within me, at my state of being, it seems like I’m doing a pretty darn good job of it.  Still, there are occasionally “off” days - and on those days I often spend some time thinking about a better day and conjuring up the feeling of what THAT day was like.  In the process, I get even more well-practiced at feeling good, AND I also get to consider the following questions: What do I consider to be the best days of my life (so far)?  What characteristics do they share?  How can I have more of them?  What does the nature of those days tell me about what I should be doing with my life?  I believe that the answers to these questions, combined with nurturing the feeling of an excellent day within you, can keep you on an ever-more-positive path in your own life.  It’s the Law of Attraction working for you, bringing more goodness your way the more that you focus on goodness.  And when a day isn’t going quite your way, you can summon up the feeling of one of the “best days of your life” to put a totally different spin on whatever’s got you down (see this interesting article on the Joy of Sadness by Steve Pavlina). [...]

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