http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/ Personal Development for Smart People Fri, 04 Jul 2008 14:59:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/#comment-52063 Berend Lange’s KOMPASS » Steve Pavlina - A Goldmine For Smart People Sun, 09 Sep 2007 16:36:10 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/#comment-52063 [...]      What Steve says about Dealing With Tragedy and Loss, for example, echos precisely what I wrote about in my article GRIEF when my father died in 2004. [...] […]      What Steve says about Dealing With Tragedy and Loss, for example, echos precisely what I wrote about in my article GRIEF when my father died in 2004. […]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/#comment-23642 Recovery Fri, 02 Mar 2007 02:38:36 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/#comment-23642 [...] I asked Dave if he’d like me to write about this publicly, and he said he’d appreciate that.  He said he’d already found the article Dealing With Tragedy and Loss helpful, but this is a rather special case as there can be feelings of responsibility and guilt involved.  Dave mentioned this man was someone’s father and perhaps someone’s grandfather. [...] […] I asked Dave if he’d like me to write about this publicly, and he said he’d appreciate that.  He said he’d already found the article Dealing With Tragedy and Loss helpful, but this is a rather special case as there can be feelings of responsibility and guilt involved.  Dave mentioned this man was someone’s father and perhaps someone’s grandfather. […]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/#comment-12997 Doctor, my phone is sick - shang lee . com Sun, 04 Jun 2006 17:47:57 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/#comment-12997 [...] However, sometimes we require the opposite to make us feel better, or feel more in control of the situation. Like how the police will rattle off a report to his boss “accident at 0400 hours, one male aged 23 and one female aged 19, no fatal injury”. The police has effectively “mechanised” the way he speaks to his higher-ranking officer. This way of speaking provides a certain detachment to the current situation. Detachment is sometimes useful, especially when emotions are involved, like how a business mechanises the process of a funeral, mechanisation helps deal with death. [...] […] However, sometimes we require the opposite to make us feel better, or feel more in control of the situation. Like how the police will rattle off a report to his boss “accident at 0400 hours, one male aged 23 and one female aged 19, no fatal injury”. The police has effectively “mechanised” the way he speaks to his higher-ranking officer. This way of speaking provides a certain detachment to the current situation. Detachment is sometimes useful, especially when emotions are involved, like how a business mechanises the process of a funeral, mechanisation helps deal with death. […]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/#comment-12971 Ryan Irelan » Dealing With Tragedy and Loss Thu, 01 Jun 2006 11:50:40 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/dealing-with-tragedy-and-loss/#comment-12971 [...] Dealing With Tragedy and Loss - “We will not improve the circumstances of this physical world by labeling them as tragic. That robs us of all our power to think and to act consciously.” [...] […] Dealing With Tragedy and Loss - “We will not improve the circumstances of this physical world by labeling them as tragic. That robs us of all our power to think and to act consciously.” […]

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