http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/01/understanding-family-relationship-problems/ Personal Development for Smart People Fri, 04 Jul 2008 15:06:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/01/understanding-family-relationship-problems/#comment-73605 The CragBaby » Blog Archive » I couldn’t agree more… Thu, 13 Mar 2008 03:16:47 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=246#comment-73605 [...] My friend Carolynn sent me this link about family relationships. I don’t want to talk about my family on here any more as they are no longer a part of my life and I choose to now only focus on healthy relationships going forward. Yet, I just wanted to note a few interesting pieces from the post that I believe are applicable to all relationships. For example, consider a problematic relationship between yourself and another family member. Suppose you hold the belief that you must be close to every family member simply because they’re related to you. Perhaps you’d never tolerate this person’s behavior if it came from a stranger, but if the person is a relative, then you tolerate it out of a sense of duty, obligation, or your personal concept of family. To push a family member out of your life might cause you to feel guilty, or it could lead to a backlash from other family members. But genuinely ask yourself, “Would I tolerate this behavior from a total stranger? Why do I tolerate it from a family member then?” Exactly why have you chosen to continue the relationship instead of simply kicking the person out of your life? What are the beliefs that perpetuate the problematic relationship? And are those beliefs really true for you? [...] […] My friend Carolynn sent me this link about family relationships. I don’t want to talk about my family on here any more as they are no longer a part of my life and I choose to now only focus on healthy relationships going forward. Yet, I just wanted to note a few interesting pieces from the post that I believe are applicable to all relationships. For example, consider a problematic relationship between yourself and another family member. Suppose you hold the belief that you must be close to every family member simply because they’re related to you. Perhaps you’d never tolerate this person’s behavior if it came from a stranger, but if the person is a relative, then you tolerate it out of a sense of duty, obligation, or your personal concept of family. To push a family member out of your life might cause you to feel guilty, or it could lead to a backlash from other family members. But genuinely ask yourself, “Would I tolerate this behavior from a total stranger? Why do I tolerate it from a family member then?” Exactly why have you chosen to continue the relationship instead of simply kicking the person out of your life? What are the beliefs that perpetuate the problematic relationship? And are those beliefs really true for you? […]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/01/understanding-family-relationship-problems/#comment-24969 QMusings » Blog Archive » Have You Outgrown Your Parents? Mon, 12 Mar 2007 13:28:56 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=246#comment-24969 [...] Steve Pavlina writes about Understanding Family Relationship Problems: [...] […] Steve Pavlina writes about Understanding Family Relationship Problems: […]

]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/01/understanding-family-relationship-problems/#comment-10307 Add social bookmarking to Wordpress in less than 5 minutes Tue, 31 Jan 2006 15:02:09 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=246#comment-10307 [...] When I finished reading Understanding Family Relationship Problems on Steve Pavlina’s blog the other day I saw a whole list of great looking icons that allowed me to post his article to del.icio.us, digg, furl, yahoo, newsvine and a host of others. I liked it and wondered how he did it and yesterday I found out the answer: you can now see the results below the date on all the articles on Constant Chaos. [...] […] When I finished reading Understanding Family Relationship Problems on Steve Pavlina’s blog the other day I saw a whole list of great looking icons that allowed me to post his article to del.icio.us, digg, furl, yahoo, newsvine and a host of others. I liked it and wondered how he did it and yesterday I found out the answer: you can now see the results below the date on all the articles on Constant Chaos. […]

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