Comments on: The Light at the End of the Tunnel http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/ Personal Development for Smart People Thu, 24 Jul 2008 22:25:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Nick Pasko http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8721 Nick Pasko Fri, 26 Aug 2005 02:22:01 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8721 I've been reading Steve's articles for about a year now, and I constantly feel they rise my motivation and push me somewhere. Somewhere I an too scared to even look at, not to mention moving there consciously. :) I was always thinking "yeah, that's a great article, I should adopt some techniques and thoughts from it". And sometimes I did. And sometimes I didn't. Though my life hasn't changed that much from it anyway. However, this article really gave me a punch to stand up and act. And now I am not only considering making a big change in my life - I am actually <a href="http://nickpasko.blogspot.com/2005/08/considering-career-switch.html" rel="nofollow">doing something</a> to make this damn chage! :) I’ve been reading Steve’s articles for about a year now, and I constantly feel they rise my motivation and push me somewhere. Somewhere I an too scared to even look at, not to mention moving there consciously. :)
I was always thinking “yeah, that’s a great article, I should adopt some techniques and thoughts from it”. And sometimes I did. And sometimes I didn’t. Though my life hasn’t changed that much from it anyway.

However, this article really gave me a punch to stand up and act. And now I am not only considering making a big change in my life - I am actually doing something to make this damn chage! :)

]]> By: ratsoringo http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8288 ratsoringo Sun, 21 Aug 2005 21:46:56 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8288 <strong>You're Gonna Be Older No Matter What</strong> Another great article from Pavlina: "People are often held back by focusing too heavily on the effort it would take to develop new skills. People say, “It would take me five years just to reach the same level in a new career that I’m a... You're Gonna Be Older No Matter What

Another great article from Pavlina: "People are often held back by focusing too heavily on the effort it would take to develop new skills. People say, “It would take me five years just to reach the same level in a new career that I’m a…

]]> By: Michael Muryn http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8166 Michael Muryn Fri, 19 Aug 2005 17:58:02 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8166 Often the reason we don't take action that could change a previous choice is the fear to change. The reason we take our responsability as breadwinner and justify that for not taking any more risk, is maybe just maintening our fear high. We have to task risk -- you try nothing, you get nothing. Indeed, do good action, be nice to your family is nice... blah blah... however happiness of your, will result in better happiness around you (that is your family, friends, etc.) too. Dare, make choice that get you motivated, take risk. Don't fear to fail. At less try, no matter how people try to make you feel bad for your choice (because there will be a lot of people trying to discourage you often for your choice and you know what, maybe those people are just the first test to see if you really want to make those choice... will you pass the test?) Often the reason we don’t take action that could change a previous choice is the fear to change. The reason we take our responsability as breadwinner and justify that for not taking any more risk, is maybe just maintening our fear high. We have to task risk — you try nothing, you get nothing. Indeed, do good action, be nice to your family is nice… blah blah… however happiness of your, will result in better happiness around you (that is your family, friends, etc.) too. Dare, make choice that get you motivated, take risk. Don’t fear to fail. At less try, no matter how people try to make you feel bad for your choice (because there will be a lot of people trying to discourage you often for your choice and you know what, maybe those people are just the first test to see if you really want to make those choice… will you pass the test?)

]]> By: SD http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8082 SD Thu, 18 Aug 2005 17:25:24 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8082 I'm in the tunnel. Others think I'm crazy to give up a good job and I think they're crazy to give up happiness :-) Regarding the breadwinner issue... often the family's contentment has more to do with the guy's own contentment than with his income level! Ironic... I’m in the tunnel. Others think I’m crazy to give up a good job and I think they’re crazy to give up happiness :-)

Regarding the breadwinner issue… often the family’s contentment has more to do with the guy’s own contentment than with his income level! Ironic…

]]> By: Oleg Lapchinsky site http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8076 Oleg Lapchinsky site Thu, 18 Aug 2005 14:56:33 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8076 <strong>Ever wanted to change your life/job?</strong> Steve Pavlina propose his guidance ... Ever wanted to change your life/job?

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]]> By: Chi Shen http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8075 Chi Shen Thu, 18 Aug 2005 14:51:52 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8075 Hi Steve, When we were all small children, we were intensely curious about everything and certainly knew no limits - physical or mental. It is precisely this boundless attitude that allows kids to learn so much in such a short period. It seems that as we age, our attitudes in this regard change for worse. When most of us encounter new ideas or new things, instead of tackling it with curiosity, we fear and avoid them. I believe that this is a main cause for people to get stuck in certain careers -- the fear of change or something new. I wonder: is this change due to environmental influences (parents, peers, etc.)? Or is it that after we have learned so much about the world that, ironically, triggers something for us to become rather complacent? Hi Steve,

When we were all small children, we were intensely curious about everything and certainly knew no limits - physical or mental. It is precisely this boundless attitude that allows kids to learn so much in such a short period.

It seems that as we age, our attitudes in this regard change for worse. When most of us encounter new ideas or new things, instead of tackling it with curiosity, we fear and avoid them. I believe that this is a main cause for people to get stuck in certain careers — the fear of change or something new.

I wonder: is this change due to environmental influences (parents, peers, etc.)? Or is it that after we have learned so much about the world that, ironically, triggers something for us to become rather complacent?

]]> By: Tom http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8039 Tom Thu, 18 Aug 2005 13:03:20 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8039 I am definitely in the tunnel. This same theme has been in the back of my mind for a long time now, but it's taken your article to really bring it to the front and make me consciously think about it. I had a plan, momentum took me in a different direction, and now I feel stuck. Read about how I got this far in to the tunnel and my plan to begin the journey out in my blog post at http://www.starlitskygames.com/blogs/toms_blog/archive/2005/08/18/30.aspx I am definitely in the tunnel. This same theme has been in the back of my mind for a long time now, but it’s taken your article to really bring it to the front and make me consciously think about it.
I had a plan, momentum took me in a different direction, and now I feel stuck.

Read about how I got this far in to the tunnel and my plan to begin the journey out in my blog post at http://www.starlitskygames.com/blogs/toms_blog/archive/2005/08/18/30.aspx

]]> By: chika http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8038 chika Thu, 18 Aug 2005 12:25:28 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8038 Back to the old saying "Do what you love and the money will follow". It's a bit of a cliche but it is very true. I'm in the midst of a transition now. I realise that I have to demand more from myself in order for me to reach my goal in 5 years time and not just "coast" through life. Back to the old saying “Do what you love and the money will follow”. It’s a bit of a cliche but it is very true.

I’m in the midst of a transition now. I realise that I have to demand more from myself in order for me to reach my goal in 5 years time and not just “coast” through life.

]]> By: paullew http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8036 paullew Thu, 18 Aug 2005 11:47:15 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8036 Great article, Steve. Yesterday, I read your article on getting from a 7 to a 10. Thinking about my recent experience, I'm drawing parallels with both articles. I'm in a business transition myself. I started about a year ago - fresh, enthusiastic, and green. An 8 out of 10. Weeks later, I started to realise how big this project actually was. Other parts of life started making demands. I began to procrastinate and dread this project, and it would consistently slip to the bottom of my daily task list. I was demoralised and disorganised. I was in the darkest part of my tunnel - a 1 out of 10. The hardest part was realising I'd bitten off more than I could chew, and I had to admit to myself "I'm not disciplined or skilled enough to tackle this yet. I'm going to step away and work on my time management and discipline first." So, I walked away, and I'm delving deep into personal development. Meanwhile, I'm not making any progress with my business transition, but that's OK - now I realise my tunnel is just making a scenic detour. And this detour into personal development is bringing huge improvements to all areas of my life - something I'd never have discovered if my tunnel had been straight and easy. Like you said in your 7-to-10 article, my speed during my business transaction will probably go something like 8-4-2-1-1-1-2-9 before I'm done! In my tunnel, the light keeps moving away from me - but that's ok, the tunnel is interesting and rewarding. :) p.s. I started reading today's article, and inwardly I started thinking it was yet another 'journey-is-more-important-than-the-destination' kind of article. It was tempting and easy to dismiss it as such - but then I wouldn't have learned anything from it. I took the time to think about it, applied it to my recent life, and came to realise what I just wrote above. Now, that's one big way this site is valuable to me. You keep pushing variations of the same messages, but we need that sometimes. We need regular reminders to take a look at our own lives, because [i]that[/i] is where insight, experience and wisdom comes from. Without a regular top-up of consciousness, it's easy to fall back into the same, semi-conscious ways of thinking and living. Thankyou for these minutes of reading, thinking and writing :) Great article, Steve.

Yesterday, I read your article on getting from a 7 to a 10. Thinking about my recent experience, I’m drawing parallels with both articles.

I’m in a business transition myself. I started about a year ago - fresh, enthusiastic, and green. An 8 out of 10. Weeks later, I started to realise how big this project actually was. Other parts of life started making demands. I began to procrastinate and dread this project, and it would consistently slip to the bottom of my daily task list.

I was demoralised and disorganised. I was in the darkest part of my tunnel - a 1 out of 10. The hardest part was realising I’d bitten off more than I could chew, and I had to admit to myself “I’m not disciplined or skilled enough to tackle this yet. I’m going to step away and work on my time management and discipline first.”

So, I walked away, and I’m delving deep into personal development. Meanwhile, I’m not making any progress with my business transition, but that’s OK - now I realise my tunnel is just making a scenic detour. And this detour into personal development is bringing huge improvements to all areas of my life - something I’d never have discovered if my tunnel had been straight and easy.

Like you said in your 7-to-10 article, my speed during my business transaction will probably go something like 8-4-2-1-1-1-2-9 before I’m done!

In my tunnel, the light keeps moving away from me - but that’s ok, the tunnel is interesting and rewarding. :)

p.s. I started reading today’s article, and inwardly I started thinking it was yet another ‘journey-is-more-important-than-the-destination’ kind of article. It was tempting and easy to dismiss it as such - but then I wouldn’t have learned anything from it.

I took the time to think about it, applied it to my recent life, and came to realise what I just wrote above.

Now, that’s one big way this site is valuable to me. You keep pushing variations of the same messages, but we need that sometimes. We need regular reminders to take a look at our own lives, because [i]that[/i] is where insight, experience and wisdom comes from.

Without a regular top-up of consciousness, it’s easy to fall back into the same, semi-conscious ways of thinking and living. Thankyou for these minutes of reading, thinking and writing :)

]]> By: Dominic Foster http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/#comment-8032 Dominic Foster Thu, 18 Aug 2005 09:41:47 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=235#comment-8032 Well written Steve. I really enjoy doing the job I have - software developer - and I am here by choice and hard work. I'm sometimes surprised at what I'm doing. I studied sciences at high school - and then HND in Mechanical Engineering at polytechnic. Studying away from home really opened things up for me. I decided that I hated science and wanted to be a writer. After a year off from college, I went back and got a BA in Communication Studies. I then took off on a trip around the world for a couple of years to gain 'life experience' - working as fruit picker, bricklayer, carpenters labourer, kitchen assistant and boatyard labourer. On returning to the UK, I did office work while trying to get into journalism. I got good at doing IT stuff and got back into computers. Got a job as a programmer. Coached myself through a whole lot of Microsoft certifications. Now I'm getting into Blogging and really enjoying writing again. I can't ever see myself working outside of the IT domain, but like yourself maybe I will end up with some kind of cross-discipline. Who knows? I think it's important to try and excell to the best of your ability in what you choose - and to make conscious decisions in whatever paths you take in life. Well written Steve.

I really enjoy doing the job I have - software developer - and I am here by choice and hard work. I’m sometimes surprised at what I’m doing. I studied sciences at high school - and then HND in Mechanical Engineering at polytechnic. Studying away from home really opened things up for me. I decided that I hated science and wanted to be a writer. After a year off from college, I went back and got a BA in Communication Studies. I then took off on a trip around the world for a couple of years to gain ‘life experience’ - working as fruit picker, bricklayer, carpenters labourer, kitchen assistant and boatyard labourer. On returning to the UK, I did office work while trying to get into journalism. I got good at doing IT stuff and got back into computers. Got a job as a programmer. Coached myself through a whole lot of Microsoft certifications.

Now I’m getting into Blogging and really enjoying writing again. I can’t ever see myself working outside of the IT domain, but like yourself maybe I will end up with some kind of cross-discipline. Who knows?

I think it’s important to try and excell to the best of your ability in what you choose - and to make conscious decisions in whatever paths you take in life.

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