Comments on: You Have the Right to Be Wrong http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/ Personal Development for Smart People Thu, 24 Jul 2008 19:52:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: jon http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5836 jon Sat, 23 Jul 2005 12:56:55 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5836 Hi, Accel Band, Would it be possible for you to list your favourite top ten blogs. If you appreciate this blog, then i'm sure your other choices would be worth a look. Kind regards Hi,

Accel Band,

Would it be possible for you to list your favourite top ten blogs.

If you appreciate this blog, then i’m sure your other choices would be worth a look.

Kind regards

]]> By: SD http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5610 SD Thu, 21 Jul 2005 19:07:03 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5610 Couldn't agree more. The willingness to change my mind (implicitely admitting that I was wrong) is an essential part of growth. As Luke writes in Acts 17.11, "Now the Bereans were of more noble character than the Thessalonians, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true." Couldn’t agree more. The willingness to change my mind (implicitely admitting that I was wrong) is an essential part of growth. As Luke writes in Acts 17.11, “Now the Bereans were of more noble character than the Thessalonians, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true.”

]]> By: Silvia http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5555 Silvia Thu, 21 Jul 2005 08:19:40 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5555 I guess that's why I love the quote: 'God, spare me the need for love, approval or appreciation' (from Byron Katie, theWork.org). If I observe myself and see how often I am not true to my own ideas and opinions and not honest about them just to preserve another's good opinion about me.... Ah well, I'm learning. Slowly though. I guess that’s why I love the quote: ‘God, spare me the need for love, approval or appreciation’ (from Byron Katie, theWork.org).
If I observe myself and see how often I am not true to my own ideas and opinions and not honest about them just to preserve another’s good opinion about me….
Ah well, I’m learning. Slowly though.

]]> By: Accel Banks http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5523 Accel Banks Thu, 21 Jul 2005 05:07:28 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5523 Great article! Please keep these coming. Why is not the full text of this article available in the RSS feed? I like this blog a lot and genuinely enjoy these wonderful moments in the evenings when I turn on my notebook and drop into my RSS reader to read it along with 9 other blogs I think are the most interesting blogs on this planet (yes, this blog is in my top 10!), but alas, today all I got of this article was a single paragraph and a link to the website. Ouch! Could not you return back to publishing the full text of each article via RSS? I find it much better and much more efficient to read blogs using an RSS reader. If I were to read blogs using a browser, I would have been unable to keep up with the new posts and would probably have had to cut the top 10 blogs I read every day to something like the top 3! I think many of the readers of this blog also value the efficiency of reading blogs using an RSS reader (as in, get done more in less time) and would welcome the return to a full text feed. Thanks for listening! Great article! Please keep these coming.

Why is not the full text of this article available in the RSS feed? I like this blog a lot and genuinely enjoy these wonderful moments in the evenings when I turn on my notebook and drop into my RSS reader to read it along with 9 other blogs I think are the most interesting blogs on this planet (yes, this blog is in my top 10!), but alas, today all I got of this article was a single paragraph and a link to the website. Ouch!

Could not you return back to publishing the full text of each article via RSS? I find it much better and much more efficient to read blogs using an RSS reader. If I were to read blogs using a browser, I would have been unable to keep up with the new posts and would probably have had to cut the top 10 blogs I read every day to something like the top 3!

I think many of the readers of this blog also value the efficiency of reading blogs using an RSS reader (as in, get done more in less time) and would welcome the return to a full text feed.

Thanks for listening!

]]> By: Scott http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5520 Scott Thu, 21 Jul 2005 03:18:05 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5520 I suppose that is why Pride made the short list of Deadly Sins and humility is to be revered? I suppose that is why Pride made the short list of Deadly Sins and humility is to be revered?

]]> By: Crimson http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5516 Crimson Thu, 21 Jul 2005 01:05:48 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5516 I'm willing to be found wrong. I just don't care. I'm usually after a specific tangible goal. But some don't see things this way. For some people, the goal is to be seen by others as being right. One of the most annoying things when debating/discussing things with these kinds of people is challenging an idea and having them in turn get offended. They can't differentiate criticism of the *idea* from an ad hominem attack. Or worse, if they "prove" your idea wrong, they take a ridiculous amount of smug self satisfaction over it and it's like they expect you to get on your knees to worship at the altar of their greatness. Of course these are often the same people living a boring, unsatisfying "safe" life, who take ridiculous satisfaction out of the stumbles of someone who actually shoots for something greater. Petty things like this have way too much meaning for them. "Tsk tsk tsk. I told him not to try opening that store. Too risky. He should have stuck with that nice boring job he had. NOW look at him..." Sometimes I want to go to sleep and be woken up at the next phase of human evolution. :) I’m willing to be found wrong. I just don’t care. I’m usually after a specific tangible goal.

But some don’t see things this way. For some people, the goal is to be seen by others as being right. One of the most annoying things when debating/discussing things with these kinds of people is challenging an idea and having them in turn get offended. They can’t differentiate criticism of the *idea* from an ad hominem attack. Or worse, if they “prove” your idea wrong, they take a ridiculous amount of smug self satisfaction over it and it’s like they expect you to get on your knees to worship at the altar of their greatness.

Of course these are often the same people living a boring, unsatisfying “safe” life, who take ridiculous satisfaction out of the stumbles of someone who actually shoots for something greater. Petty things like this have way too much meaning for them.

“Tsk tsk tsk. I told him not to try opening that store. Too risky. He should have stuck with that nice boring job he had. NOW look at him…”

Sometimes I want to go to sleep and be woken up at the next phase of human evolution. :)

]]> By: Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5515 Steve Pavlina Wed, 20 Jul 2005 23:11:56 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5515 @Jim: In my opinion what defines you as a person is your consciousness. Your consciousness gives you the capability of self-definition by choosing your thoughts. So if you associate the failure of your ideas as a personal failure, then you use your own consciousness against itself (to define yourself as a failure). But despite the popularity of this negative approach, it isn't necessary. Regardless of what happens to your ideas, you can still use your consciousness to create an empowering self-definition that allows you to continue to grow. @Jim: In my opinion what defines you as a person is your consciousness. Your consciousness gives you the capability of self-definition by choosing your thoughts. So if you associate the failure of your ideas as a personal failure, then you use your own consciousness against itself (to define yourself as a failure). But despite the popularity of this negative approach, it isn’t necessary. Regardless of what happens to your ideas, you can still use your consciousness to create an empowering self-definition that allows you to continue to grow.

]]> By: Jim Jones http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5477 Jim Jones Wed, 20 Jul 2005 20:58:52 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5477 So what does define the person if above is removed? So what does define the person if above is removed?

]]> By: Michael Muryn http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5449 Michael Muryn Wed, 20 Jul 2005 14:19:14 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5449 I think I saw you said you don't want to repeat what already exist (I may be wrong!). But there is topic, like this one, that need to be repeated (as your post about the basic). That is in no-way a criticism, but just to point out to people that may just go check everything you say. It is easy to contradict someone on a lot of words ;-) I'm one of those person that people often think I don't want to be wrong, etc. etc. But in fact I am probably one of those who accept the fact that I am wrong very easily -- even if I pursue "rightness" and performance, etc. etc. The reason that it shocks people, it is that when I am right (or think I am), I will discuss a lot till I find my answer. Meaning that if I am convinced I am right, either me or the other side doesn't get something and if I am proved wrong, I accept it and doesn't make a big game out of it. Actually I enjoy to be proved wrong when I am, so I can learn something, improve, think diffferently, etc. (Of course there is topic where there is multiple good answer :D) Another way to think of that topic and you also well covered it, it is that if you try to never do mistake, you will advance only very slowly, as you will be very precautious of anything (and in the end, that might be considered also as an error, but in another aspect -- like productivity, performance, growth, etc.) -- if you run a lot faster (taking risk)... you will eventually hit wall, it may hurt a lot, but chance are you will be already ahead, and you will have time to think and find a way to go back on the right path to go more further. I think I saw you said you don’t want to repeat what already exist (I may be wrong!). But there is topic, like this one, that need to be repeated (as your post about the basic). That is in no-way a criticism, but just to point out to people that may just go check everything you say. It is easy to contradict someone on a lot of words ;-)

I’m one of those person that people often think I don’t want to be wrong, etc. etc. But in fact I am probably one of those who accept the fact that I am wrong very easily — even if I pursue “rightness” and performance, etc. etc.

The reason that it shocks people, it is that when I am right (or think I am), I will discuss a lot till I find my answer. Meaning that if I am convinced I am right, either me or the other side doesn’t get something and if I am proved wrong, I accept it and doesn’t make a big game out of it. Actually I enjoy to be proved wrong when I am, so I can learn something, improve, think diffferently, etc. (Of course there is topic where there is multiple good answer :D)

Another way to think of that topic and you also well covered it, it is that if you try to never do mistake, you will advance only very slowly, as you will be very precautious of anything (and in the end, that might be considered also as an error, but in another aspect — like productivity, performance, growth, etc.) — if you run a lot faster (taking risk)… you will eventually hit wall, it may hurt a lot, but chance are you will be already ahead, and you will have time to think and find a way to go back on the right path to go more further.

]]> By: Success Begins Today http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5448 Success Begins Today Wed, 20 Jul 2005 14:18:03 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5448 <strong>Toastmasters: A Place To Make Mistakes</strong> No one likes to make mistakes. But they happen and they are often accompanied with pain and remorse. When they happen in front of an audience they can be truly devastating. Many people are deathly afraid of public speaking because of a previous failure... Toastmasters: A Place To Make Mistakes

No one likes to make mistakes. But they happen and they are often accompanied with pain and remorse. When they happen in front of an audience they can be truly devastating. Many people are deathly afraid of public speaking because of a previous failure…

]]> By: JB http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/07/you-have-the-right-to-be-wrong/#comment-5447 JB Wed, 20 Jul 2005 14:01:44 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/?p=209#comment-5447 Steve, you wrote a great article this morning. The need to be right can cloud good judgement. The right to be wrong is liberating. Your high school teacher resembles one that I had. I wonder if these older, crusty teachers were given the same handbook when they took teacher training. Steve, you wrote a great article this morning. The need to be right can cloud good judgement. The right to be wrong is liberating. Your high school teacher resembles one that I had. I wonder if these older, crusty teachers were given the same handbook when they took teacher training.

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