Comments on: The Best Valentine’s Day Gift http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/ Personal Development for Smart People Thu, 24 Jul 2008 19:50:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Rich http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-914 Rich Tue, 15 Feb 2005 19:59:01 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-914 A week would probably be difficult without taking vacation. Also a bit excessive, methinks. A weekend's probably the max. Good idea, though. <em>Martians and Venutians tend to think differently about such matters.</em> I...couldn't have said it any better myself. A week would probably be difficult without taking vacation. Also a bit excessive, methinks. A weekend’s probably the max. Good idea, though.

Martians and Venutians tend to think differently about such matters.

I…couldn’t have said it any better myself.

]]> By: MX http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-908 MX Tue, 15 Feb 2005 13:42:35 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-908 I thought it was for a week. :) Sorry for the misunderstanding. I would never do this for a week because in my opinion it would be harmful for my relationship and degrading for me. I also behave extra-nice in my relationship from time to time for a day, because I lover. But I never tell her "I will be your servant for a day" because in my opinion it's degrading. I thought it was for a week. :) Sorry for the misunderstanding.

I would never do this for a week because in my opinion it would be harmful for my relationship and degrading for me.

I also behave extra-nice in my relationship from time to time for a day, because I lover. But I never tell her “I will be your servant for a day” because in my opinion it’s degrading.

]]> By: Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-900 Steve Pavlina Tue, 15 Feb 2005 01:11:21 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-900 I think you misunderstood the idea, MX. It's only for a weekend, not a week. It's simply a gift. I don't expect anything in return. Your usage of the words "nice" vs. "tough" doesn't make sense to me. This isn't a competition or a power struggle or a behavioral conditioning experiment. My wife and I have been together 11 years now (married 7 years). I think you misunderstood the idea, MX. It’s only for a weekend, not a week. It’s simply a gift. I don’t expect anything in return. Your usage of the words “nice” vs. “tough” doesn’t make sense to me. This isn’t a competition or a power struggle or a behavioral conditioning experiment. My wife and I have been together 11 years now (married 7 years).

]]> By: MX - posting from PDA http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-899 MX - posting from PDA Mon, 14 Feb 2005 23:49:04 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-899 I keep my relationship balanced by standing up for myself. I am nice, but I'm also tough when the situation requires this. However, in my opinion being a servant for a week is NOT a good thing to do in a relationship. Many people are extra-nice hoping that the SO will someday be nice to them. I mean, if I'm very nice to you, you'll be very nice to me, right? Unfortunately love relationships most of the time don't work this way. I am not sure why. I keep my relationship balanced by standing up for myself. I am nice, but I’m also tough when the situation requires this.

However, in my opinion being a servant for a week is NOT a good thing to do in a relationship.

Many people are extra-nice hoping that the SO will someday be nice to them. I mean, if I’m very nice to you, you’ll be very nice to me, right?

Unfortunately love relationships most of the time don’t work this way. I am not sure why.

]]> By: AK http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-896 AK Mon, 14 Feb 2005 20:35:13 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-896 MX, I think that it is your comment that is weird and not the Steve's post. Think about it -- you try to do this and you are taken advantage of -- is it hard to figure out whose relationship is not balanced one? Steve, I think it is a great idea and a great post. Keep up the spirit with which you are spreading all these great ideas on this weblog. MX, I think that it is your comment that is weird and not the Steve’s post. Think about it — you try to do this and you are taken advantage of — is it hard to figure out whose relationship is not balanced one?

Steve, I think it is a great idea and a great post. Keep up the spirit with which you are spreading all these great ideas on this weblog.

]]> By: MX http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-895 MX Mon, 14 Feb 2005 18:11:45 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/the-best-valentines-day-gift/#comment-895 Feel free NOT to post my comment. Man, I really hope your relationship is a balanced one. This post is plain.. weird. I would never do that. There were times in my life and my relationship when I did behave like that, but the result was very bad. I was taken advantage of. In my opinion, a real man is one who takes initiative and makes her (and himself) feel good, without following her every wish and whim. Feel free NOT to post my comment.

Man, I really hope your relationship is a balanced one. This post is plain.. weird. I would never do that.

There were times in my life and my relationship when I did behave like that, but the result was very bad. I was taken advantage of.

In my opinion, a real man is one who takes initiative and makes her (and himself) feel good, without following her every wish and whim.

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