Comments on: What Do You Need To Feel Secure? http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/ Personal Development for Smart People Sat, 06 Sep 2008 21:23:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Ilya Olevsky http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-521 Ilya Olevsky Sun, 09 Jan 2005 23:16:02 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-521 A lot of people seem to break what happens in life into one of two categories: success or failure. In reality there exists neither, only the perception of one or the other. Steve has hit the nail on the head here -- the point of life is to live your dreams. This is the biggest success you can create for yourself, because you'll always be successful internally regardless of what happens to you externally. If you feel that you have something to lose by changing your lifestyle to follow your dreams, then you're allowing external factors to control your life. This is very important to understand. A lot of people seem to break what happens in life into one of two categories: success or failure. In reality there exists neither, only the perception of one or the other. Steve has hit the nail on the head here — the point of life is to live your dreams. This is the biggest success you can create for yourself, because you’ll always be successful internally regardless of what happens to you externally. If you feel that you have something to lose by changing your lifestyle to follow your dreams, then you’re allowing external factors to control your life. This is very important to understand.

]]> By: The Nomad Tavern http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-519 The Nomad Tavern Sun, 09 Jan 2005 19:41:29 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-519 <strong>Time moves</strong> In my last post I briefly outlined a new purpose for this blog. Steve Pavlina has done a wonderful job describing what thought have been buzzing through my mind...from Steve Pavlina's Blog: It doesn’t matter where you’re starting from… whether... Time moves
In my last post I briefly outlined a new purpose for this blog. Steve Pavlina has done a wonderful job describing what thought have been buzzing through my mind…from Steve Pavlina’s Blog: It doesn’t matter where you’re starting from… whether…

]]> By: Rich http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-514 Rich Sun, 09 Jan 2005 05:39:16 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-514 To back up Steve, I always think of it this way. Once you have a goal, every action you take is necessarily in pursuit of your goal. Even if actions or circumstances seemingly take you further from your goal, the very fact that you have identified your goal and you're working on it is progress. In effect, the perspective here is that goal-oriented action is progress, because even if the results are disappointing, you did not sit around on your duff doing nothing. And compared to that, *any* action is definitely progress! To back up Steve, I always think of it this way. Once you have a goal, every action you take is necessarily in pursuit of your goal. Even if actions or circumstances seemingly take you further from your goal, the very fact that you have identified your goal and you’re working on it is progress. In effect, the perspective here is that goal-oriented action is progress, because even if the results are disappointing, you did not sit around on your duff doing nothing. And compared to that, *any* action is definitely progress!

]]> By: Steven http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-505 Steven Sat, 08 Jan 2005 18:21:21 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-505 Thanks for a really thought provoking post. I think I saw a lot of me in what you said - its never quite the right time for that big project. I may post some further thoughts on this on my blog when I had some time to think and react. Thanks for a really thought provoking post. I think I saw a lot of me in what you said - its never quite the right time for that big project. I may post some further thoughts on this on my blog when I had some time to think and react.

]]> By: Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-499 Steve Pavlina Sat, 08 Jan 2005 16:05:17 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-499 Going after your dreams doesn't mean striving to reach some distant point you may never reach and then being depressed when you don't get there. It means living your dreams in the present -- right now -- in whatever capacity you currently have to do so. How can you fall down in depression when every day is a success? Living your dreams is about being and doing, not having. External forces can sometimes stop you from having, but not from being and doing and living. Going after your dreams doesn’t mean striving to reach some distant point you may never reach and then being depressed when you don’t get there. It means living your dreams in the present — right now — in whatever capacity you currently have to do so. How can you fall down in depression when every day is a success? Living your dreams is about being and doing, not having. External forces can sometimes stop you from having, but not from being and doing and living.

]]> By: John http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-496 John Sat, 08 Jan 2005 12:29:43 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-496 "I still agree with the overall content of the article, but I personally think the individuals mentioned in the example decided they had nothing to lose (because they didn’t) and therefore became successful." Yes i'm agree with that. Going after his dreams ok but if you never reach them, nobody will speak about your failure. If you success, you will be one example for others. So, don't forget that failure exists. Risks have to be calculated and we can't only focalize our attention on success story without thinking about all failure story. “I still agree with the overall content of the article, but I personally think the individuals mentioned in the example decided they had nothing to lose (because they didn’t) and therefore became successful.”

Yes i’m agree with that.

Going after his dreams ok but if you never reach them, nobody will speak about your failure.

If you success, you will be one example for others.

So, don’t forget that failure exists. Risks have to be calculated and we can’t only focalize our attention on success story without thinking about all failure story.

]]> By: John http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-495 John Sat, 08 Jan 2005 10:35:18 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-495 "I still agree with the overall content of the article, but I personally think the individuals mentioned in the example decided they had nothing to lose (because they didn’t) and therefore became successful." Totally agree. And i think that a lot of people go after their dreams all their life but never reach them. They fall down in depression and nobody speak about them. Success Story exists but the opposite is right too. “I still agree with the overall content of the article, but I personally think the individuals mentioned in the example decided they had nothing to lose (because they didn’t) and therefore became successful.”

Totally agree. And i think that a lot of people go after their dreams all their life but never reach them. They fall down in depression and nobody speak about them.

Success Story exists but the opposite is right too.

]]> By: Bill Nalen http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-494 Bill Nalen Sat, 08 Jan 2005 04:54:00 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-494 I disagree too. That's not snow it's a light dusting of frost. ;-) I disagree too. That’s not snow it’s a light dusting of frost. ;-)

]]> By: Brian Swanson http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-487 Brian Swanson Fri, 07 Jan 2005 20:36:22 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/what-do-you-need-to-feel-secure/#comment-487 I love this article...I disagree with one major point though. Many of the examples you provided are people who had no where to go but up. I think they didn't rely on external security because there wasn't any to be found, or they were so far down that it took a lot less external security for them than it would for someone who has a lifestyle to protect. I still agree with the overall content of the article, but I personally think the individuals mentioned in the example decided they had nothing to lose (because they didn't) and therefore became successful. I love this article…I disagree with one major point though.

Many of the examples you provided are people who had no where to go but up. I think they didn’t rely on external security because there wasn’t any to be found, or they were so far down that it took a lot less external security for them than it would for someone who has a lifestyle to protect.

I still agree with the overall content of the article, but I personally think the individuals mentioned in the example decided they had nothing to lose (because they didn’t) and therefore became successful.

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