Comments on: New Article: Living Your Values http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/ Personal Development for Smart People Fri, 16 May 2008 03:49:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: whoisnick.com http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-539 whoisnick.com Wed, 12 Jan 2005 20:24:44 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-539 <strong>Playing with values</strong> Well thanks to Curt Rosengren and Steve Pavlina, I'm going to take Curt's suggestion of play with Steve's reminder of values and goals to create a play date for finding and assessing my values. I have goals set, but no values to help them out. I... Playing with values
Well thanks to Curt Rosengren and Steve Pavlina, I’m going to take Curt’s suggestion of play with Steve’s reminder of values and goals to create a play date for finding and assessing my values. I have goals set, but no values to help them out. I…

]]> By: formfarbeminze http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-412 formfarbeminze Wed, 29 Dec 2004 19:47:07 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-412 i think goals are just part of our brain's system software. the basic process is just the unconscious 'get another of those tasty food thingies'-program. the question of goals is a question of awareness me thinks. i think goals are just part of our brain’s system software. the basic process is just the unconscious ‘get another of those tasty food thingies’-program. the question of goals is a question of awareness me thinks.

]]> By: RX http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-409 RX Sun, 26 Dec 2004 23:34:00 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-409 Steve, it's your right to cancel the software marketing book. However, there are MANY good motivational / self development speakers and authors and books, and VERY FEW decent books on software marketing. Few business people give away their business knowledge. You seem to be one of the few business people who do. So please reconsider finishing the book. There are lots of good books on self development but very few good books on software marketing. Thank you. Steve, it’s your right to cancel the software marketing book.

However, there are MANY good motivational / self development speakers and authors and books, and VERY FEW decent books on software marketing.

Few business people give away their business knowledge. You seem to be one of the few business people who do.

So please reconsider finishing the book. There are lots of good books on self development but very few good books on software marketing.

Thank you.

]]> By: Jayen http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-406 Jayen Sat, 25 Dec 2004 08:37:28 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-406 Goals are a must. Without Goals life becomes aimless. No goals means no Focus. Jayen (A man without solid goals) Goals are a must. Without Goals life becomes aimless. No goals means no Focus.

Jayen
(A man without solid goals)

]]> By: Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-405 Steve Pavlina Fri, 24 Dec 2004 17:41:17 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-405 I had heard years ago that the oft-quoted Yale University Study may be false or perhaps happened at some other university entirely; I've heard the story quoted as a Harvard study as well. In an article I wrote that mentioned it, I wrote it as "Zig Ziglar reports that..." instead of stating it as fact because I was uncertain about the story's origins. Personally I cannot verify either way if it's true or false, and having read some of the sites that claim it's false, I can't say that those seem any more or less credible than those who claim it's true. Perhaps I will edit the original article to delete the reference entirely. Is anyone aware of whether or not Zig Ziglar (who I believe is the first person to use that story) ever came out and admitted that it was false or defended it as true? I had heard years ago that the oft-quoted Yale University Study may be false or perhaps happened at some other university entirely; I’ve heard the story quoted as a Harvard study as well. In an article I wrote that mentioned it, I wrote it as “Zig Ziglar reports that…” instead of stating it as fact because I was uncertain about the story’s origins. Personally I cannot verify either way if it’s true or false, and having read some of the sites that claim it’s false, I can’t say that those seem any more or less credible than those who claim it’s true. Perhaps I will edit the original article to delete the reference entirely. Is anyone aware of whether or not Zig Ziglar (who I believe is the first person to use that story) ever came out and admitted that it was false or defended it as true?

]]> By: John http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-404 John Fri, 24 Dec 2004 09:39:27 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-404 Yes BBGames i'm agree with you. Setting goals is important to focalize on them and not on daily problems. It's also important in time management. But it's important to know that the Yale study was wrong. Yes BBGames i’m agree with you. Setting goals is important to focalize on them and not on daily problems.

It’s also important in time management.

But it’s important to know that the Yale study was wrong.

]]> By: shocked and outraged http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-402 shocked and outraged Thu, 23 Dec 2004 21:58:20 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-402 OMG!! The Yale study wasn't true!?! Those liars! That must mean everything else those self-help guys ever said was untrue also! I am NEVER setting another goal as long as I live! And I am most certainly not going to try and live to my potential, no matter what Mr. Steve "Liar, liar, pants on fire" Pavlina says. OMG!! The Yale study wasn’t true!?! Those liars! That must mean everything else those self-help guys ever said was untrue also! I am NEVER setting another goal as long as I live! And I am most certainly not going to try and live to my potential, no matter what Mr. Steve “Liar, liar, pants on fire” Pavlina says.

]]> By: GBGames http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-401 GBGames Thu, 23 Dec 2004 19:37:24 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-401 John: That's an awesome revelation. It's a huge study that has been cited by many people. It is also interesting to note that Brian Tracy, Zig Ziglar, and Tony Robbins read each other's stuff to the point that they don't realize who was the first to say something. B-) That all being said, the only thing that this does is say that that study can't be cited as fact anymore. Setting clear goals is definitely better than setting foggy goals or not setting goals at all. Even without a huge study to point out the drastic difference between setting goals and not setting goals, I think we can agree that lots of people have actually been able to focus their lives better by doing so than not. John: That’s an awesome revelation. It’s a huge study that has been cited by many people. It is also interesting to note that Brian Tracy, Zig Ziglar, and Tony Robbins read each other’s stuff to the point that they don’t realize who was the first to say something. B-)

That all being said, the only thing that this does is say that that study can’t be cited as fact anymore. Setting clear goals is definitely better than setting foggy goals or not setting goals at all. Even without a huge study to point out the drastic difference between setting goals and not setting goals, I think we can agree that lots of people have actually been able to focus their lives better by doing so than not.

]]> By: John http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-400 John Thu, 23 Dec 2004 17:18:37 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-400 Hello Steve. On some articles, you say that setting clear goals lead to success. You give Zig Ziglar and a study at Yale University as reference. But if you read http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/06/cdu.html , you can see this study is a myth and has never existed. Hello Steve. On some articles, you say that setting clear goals lead to success. You give Zig Ziglar and a study at Yale University as reference.
But if you read http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/06/cdu.html , you can see this study is a myth and has never existed.

]]> By: GBGames http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-398 GBGames Thu, 23 Dec 2004 15:23:03 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-398 I have to say that when I first was introduced to the writings of Steve Pavlina, I was coasting along in life. I had heard of Tony Robbins and the like before, but I didn't know how helpful they actually were. I just assumed they had followers like Oprah did, and I didn't care to be part of it. Then I read some of Steve's articles. It is hard to say that he turned my life around, since not everything happened all at once, not everything clicked then and there. Still, reading his articles and discussing his successes helped me realize that I can be successful too. This realization, my realization, is what really turned me around. Is it mindless of me to think that following in the footsteps of someone who is successful? I don't think so. If I believe that something Steve did successfully in the past won't apply in this time or that situation, I can make those decisions. Recently I've been reading a lot more than I am used to and in genres I never thought I would be reading. Brian Tracy, Jay Abraham, time management books, etc. As I go over what Steve writes and has written, I find that, yes, a lot of what he says is based on what a lot of other people have said. But so what? "If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants." What Steve has done for me personally is allow me to know that I can stand on the same giants he is standing on, and I did so starting by sitting on his own shoulders. There is nothing that hasn't already been done that I cannot do. I used to think that to get by I just have to be as good as most people. Now I realize that I don't want to just get by. I want to be excellent. I want to be the best. Why aim for less than 1st place? Again, as I read the authors that Steve has mentioned, I see what his influences are. This doesn't upset me. It just makes me realize even more that Steve isn't a special supernatural person. He is not 100 times smarter than anyone. Anyone can do what he's done, and more. And I intend to do so as well. I come here day after day not because I think Steve is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but because his words do two things. First, they motivate me to do things I never thought possible. Second, they introduce me to concepts that I can then do research on myself. I have to say that when I first was introduced to the writings of Steve Pavlina, I was coasting along in life. I had heard of Tony Robbins and the like before, but I didn’t know how helpful they actually were. I just assumed they had followers like Oprah did, and I didn’t care to be part of it.

Then I read some of Steve’s articles. It is hard to say that he turned my life around, since not everything happened all at once, not everything clicked then and there. Still, reading his articles and discussing his successes helped me realize that I can be successful too. This realization, my realization, is what really turned me around.

Is it mindless of me to think that following in the footsteps of someone who is successful? I don’t think so. If I believe that something Steve did successfully in the past won’t apply in this time or that situation, I can make those decisions.

Recently I’ve been reading a lot more than I am used to and in genres I never thought I would be reading. Brian Tracy, Jay Abraham, time management books, etc. As I go over what Steve writes and has written, I find that, yes, a lot of what he says is based on what a lot of other people have said. But so what? “If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.” What Steve has done for me personally is allow me to know that I can stand on the same giants he is standing on, and I did so starting by sitting on his own shoulders. There is nothing that hasn’t already been done that I cannot do.

I used to think that to get by I just have to be as good as most people. Now I realize that I don’t want to just get by. I want to be excellent. I want to be the best. Why aim for less than 1st place?

Again, as I read the authors that Steve has mentioned, I see what his influences are. This doesn’t upset me. It just makes me realize even more that Steve isn’t a special supernatural person. He is not 100 times smarter than anyone. Anyone can do what he’s done, and more. And I intend to do so as well. I come here day after day not because I think Steve is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but because his words do two things. First, they motivate me to do things I never thought possible. Second, they introduce me to concepts that I can then do research on myself.

]]> By: TesTeq http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-397 TesTeq Thu, 23 Dec 2004 06:32:31 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-397 To Koolaide_Man: Probably some people need such "self-proclaimed inspirational speakers". Steve has some addicts reading his writings carefully and enjoying it. Everybody has the right to do it or not. Maybe Steve writings are not innovative but they also are not harmful. You don't have to spend money to read them. To Koolaide_Man:
Probably some people need such “self-proclaimed inspirational speakers”. Steve has some addicts reading his writings carefully and enjoying it. Everybody has the right to do it or not. Maybe Steve writings are not innovative but they also are not harmful. You don’t have to spend money to read them.

]]> By: Brian http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-396 Brian Thu, 23 Dec 2004 01:18:44 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-396 As I was reading, my gut reaction was, "Wait! Values don't change that much or that often!" Maybe that was just a pre-conceived notion, but I found myself having an internal debate over semantics. What is the difference between changing our values and changing our priorities? Is there a difference at all? If someone asked me to articulate it, I might be inclined to say that I value love more than wealth, but since I can only do a few things at once, for the next six months I'm going to focus on wealth. Would that mean that my values had changed? Or that my values stayed the same, but my priorities changed? It seems more like a resource allocation problem than an identity problem, so describing it in terms of shifting values didn't resonate well with me. Maybe I'll change my mind after further reflection. Thanks for the thought-provoking article! As I was reading, my gut reaction was, “Wait! Values don’t change that much or that often!” Maybe that was just a pre-conceived notion, but I found myself having an internal debate over semantics. What is the difference between changing our values and changing our priorities? Is there a difference at all?

If someone asked me to articulate it, I might be inclined to say that I value love more than wealth, but since I can only do a few things at once, for the next six months I’m going to focus on wealth. Would that mean that my values had changed? Or that my values stayed the same, but my priorities changed? It seems more like a resource allocation problem than an identity problem, so describing it in terms of shifting values didn’t resonate well with me. Maybe I’ll change my mind after further reflection.

Thanks for the thought-provoking article!

]]> By: Koolaide_Man http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-395 Koolaide_Man Wed, 22 Dec 2004 23:05:35 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-395 Dear Steve, You are just another one of the myriad self-proclaimed inspirational speakers who think they have something new or profound to say when in fact all you are doing is regurgitating the same stale nonsense that has been done before. The only thing more pathetic than you doing this are the mindless sheep that will blindly follow it. You are the typical spiritually materialistic individual. You're a disgrace and an embarassment. Dear Steve,
You are just another one of the myriad self-proclaimed inspirational speakers who think they have something new or profound to say when in fact all you are doing is regurgitating the same stale nonsense that has been done before.

The only thing more pathetic than you doing this are the mindless sheep that will blindly follow it.

You are the typical spiritually materialistic individual. You’re a disgrace and an embarassment.

]]> By: Arthur Langereis http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-393 Arthur Langereis Wed, 22 Dec 2004 22:50:31 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-393 I read "What Matters Most" by Hyrum Smith from FranklinCovey and it teaches how to live according to your values to motivate yourself, get results and be happy, but I felt that something was missing. What I did was just simply write down, in terms of values, how I felt about things and although this was interesting, it didn't really help me in this period of change I'm in. The book explains that everyone has a "belief window", a set of beliefs about yourself, the world and everything that can empower or limit you and how you can identify and remove the limiting beliefs and add new empowering ones as necessary. And by doing so you will "live according to your values" as the subtitle suggests, but of course, this simple step of setting values according to your goals is the logical thing to do if you want to effectuate change. I will try this at once. Thanks, Steve. I read “What Matters Most” by Hyrum Smith from FranklinCovey and it teaches how to live according to your values to motivate yourself, get results and be happy, but I felt that something was missing. What I did was just simply write down, in terms of values, how I felt about things and although this was interesting, it didn’t really help me in this period of change I’m in.

The book explains that everyone has a “belief window”, a set of beliefs about yourself, the world and everything that can empower or limit you and how you can identify and remove the limiting beliefs and add new empowering ones as necessary. And by doing so you will “live according to your values” as the subtitle suggests, but of course, this simple step of setting values according to your goals is the logical thing to do if you want to effectuate change.

I will try this at once. Thanks, Steve.

]]> By: Alan Fendrich http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-391 Alan Fendrich Wed, 22 Dec 2004 18:43:45 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/new-article-living-your-values/#comment-391 Everytime I come here to read your stuff, I am really happy I bookmarked your site. I learned how to identify values and goals 20 years ago -- it caused a breakthrough in my life beyond anything I could have imagined. However you are right, the system -- setting values first and matching goals to them, has oftentimes made me feel stuck. I have begun the exercise again (I always spend Christmas Day in planning), but this time will look at it from your perspective. Thank you Everytime I come here to read your stuff, I am really happy I bookmarked your site. I learned how to identify values and goals 20 years ago — it caused a breakthrough in my life beyond anything I could have imagined. However you are right, the system — setting values first and matching goals to them, has oftentimes made me feel stuck.

I have begun the exercise again (I always spend Christmas Day in planning), but this time will look at it from your perspective.

Thank you

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