Comments on: Are Your Friends An Elevator or a Cage? http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/ Personal Development for Smart People Wed, 09 Jul 2008 09:53:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Paul http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/#comment-411 Paul Tue, 28 Dec 2004 20:39:16 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/#comment-411 I too have problems with friends pirating software (really expensive software at that) and it's great to hear that other people have had the same problem (and have solved it). Thanks for the advice, and at the risk of sounding like an all-important egotistical rube: "I now know what I must do..." Thanks I too have problems with friends pirating software (really expensive software at that) and it’s great to hear that other people have had the same problem (and have solved it). Thanks for the advice, and at the risk of sounding like an all-important egotistical rube:

“I now know what I must do…”

Thanks

]]> By: Mike W. http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/#comment-327 Mike W. Sat, 18 Dec 2004 04:47:02 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/#comment-327 Thanks for writing this entry. When I first read about this idea in your dexterity/articles, it seemed harsh and insensitive to me. But, after reading this entry, I understand now that its really "tough love." Thanks for writing this entry. When I first read about this idea in your dexterity/articles, it seemed harsh and insensitive to me. But, after reading this entry, I understand now that its really “tough love.”

]]> By: Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/#comment-308 Steve Pavlina Thu, 16 Dec 2004 20:17:51 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/#comment-308 Agreed. This fits with the gradual transition process I wrote about in the previous post. Unless you're leaving an abusive relationship, abrupt transitions aren't usually needed. I find it best to focus on adding positive new relationships (such as by joining a new club or association), and the most empowering relationships will automatically tend to crowd out the least empowering. It's like what happens when someone you know falls in love; you may see less and less of them as they spend more time with their new boyfriend or girlfriend. Agreed. This fits with the gradual transition process I wrote about in the previous post. Unless you’re leaving an abusive relationship, abrupt transitions aren’t usually needed. I find it best to focus on adding positive new relationships (such as by joining a new club or association), and the most empowering relationships will automatically tend to crowd out the least empowering. It’s like what happens when someone you know falls in love; you may see less and less of them as they spend more time with their new boyfriend or girlfriend.

]]> By: Scott http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/#comment-306 Scott Thu, 16 Dec 2004 19:06:32 +0000 http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/are-your-friends-an-elevator-or-a-cage/#comment-306 One comment I would have to make is that I found that in order to change the people you associate with is to transition from seeing them less and seeing others more. This way you don't have to 'burn bridges'. I think taking drastic measures to remove people from your life can result in animosity which may be worse than a destructive friendship. Especially with family. Other than that I agree with you. Well put! One comment I would have to make is that I found that in order to change the people you associate with is to transition from seeing them less and seeing others more. This way you don’t have to ‘burn bridges’. I think taking drastic measures to remove people from your life can result in animosity which may be worse than a destructive friendship. Especially with family.

Other than that I agree with you. Well put!

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